Your power is your ability to affect change in your life.
We limit our power in several ways.
Shame
We can feel shame for many, many things. As men this is especially true when dealing with women. If you look at a beautiful woman you can be accused of objectifying them. If you’re attracted to younger women, you’re accused of being a pervert. If talk to a very pretty girl and you’re not the reincarnation of Adonis himself, then they think you’re weird. As men, it’s very hard to throw off the shame imposed on us by others so that we can go for what we want.
Shame can be overcome by recognizing that you should live with no regrets and you don’t need any justification to follow what you want and what you are going for.
Q: “Why are you hiking that mountain? I don’t understand. It’s 16 miles and you’re going to be sore and tired and dirty and gross and you might die”
A: “Because I want to”
Q: “Why are you checking out that girl!?!?”
A: “Because I think she’s beautiful.”
Q: “Why do guys like big boobs?”
A: “I don’t know, but I like them too.”
Lack of focus
You can spend large amounts of time watching TV, playing games, and puttering around and not get anything done.
Overcoming a lack of focus can be done in a couple of ways. One way is to go on a media fast. Get rid of our TV, Video Games, and other mindless entertainment. A second way is to journal. If you want something you need to journal about it to know that you’re making progress. A third way is to master your first hour. This is the first hour in your day that can set the mood for the whole day. A fourth thing is to do the worst thing first. If you’ve got a particularly nasty thing to do one day, do it first so that everything else that day becomes easier. There are hundreds of books on getting things done.
Timidity
Sometimes you’re afraid to do something and you’re shy or you need help and are afraid to ask for it.
Overcoming timidity is difficult. Especially if you’re on your own. However, you can cultivate friends, buddies, wing-men, and others to help give you courage. Also, you must actually put forth effort and go out and DO! If you don’t, you’ll never get past this point. You can also use accountability buddies who will make sure that you do what you’re supposed to.
Fear of failure
You fear the social pressure of failure. As men we’re meant to succeed and dealing with failure is not an easy thing.
The only thing to say about this is life is about the journey. There is no failure, there is only feedback. Make sure when you fail, you learn something from it so you get feedback and can improve.
Fear of Success
We fear that if we succeed we’ll be given more responsibility than we can handle. “I can barely take care of myself, how am I going to take care of a wife and family?”
One of the pivotal, central, core parts to being a man is to take responsibility for yourself and your life. If it isn’t what you want, then it’s your fault and you need to do something about it. If you don’t do it. Nobody else will.
Negative Conditioning
This is social pressure caused by others around us and taught to us when we’re young. “Go to college and get a college degree”, “Make sure you make a lot of money”, “Never ask for help as men do things by themselves” are all some lessons that men get taught growing up.
Rest and Recovery
Power needs rest. Make sure you have sufficient sleep. Take a day off every week where you can just goof off, but work hard the rest of the week. This goes for diets as well. If you eat perfect 6 days and bad 1 day, you’ll look awesome.
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