I went to a quick little seminar called “Becoming a Limitless Man”. It discussed some of the ways we limit ourselves and how to recognize our limits, overcome them, and grow in strength. Here’s my take:
Truth: Things as they actually are
Truth is things as they actually are. It doesn’t care about your viewpoint, others viewpoints, opinions, beliefs, hopes, dreams, or anything else. It is the actual reality. It is rare for us to see and recognize the real truth.
Beliefs limit us from seeing the truth
Our reality is distorted by our beliefs. These beliefs come from lots of different places. Some of them are formed by our past experiences.
- “Every time I ask for a girls’ phone number she says no”
- “Every time I go back home for vacation my mom nags me”
Lots of time these past experience beliefs become created in absolutist terms.
They can come from social conditioning. Our friends, family, mentors, teachers, religious authority figures, all give us some of their advice, knowledge, and experience. Then we accept their beliefs as our own.
- “It’s good to be married”
- “Drinking alcohol is bad”
- “You shouldn’t ask that person out as they’re not good for you”
Another way to generate beliefs are from Secondary Gain or the “Good Enough Syndrome”.
- “I keep my job because it gives me money even though it drives me crazy.”
- “My boyfriend is nice to me and takes care of me even though I don’t really like him.”
Limiting beliefs
Now not all beliefs are bad, some of them are good. If you get sick whenever you drink milk, the truth is you’re probably lactose intolerant. Your experience taught you that and no amount of believing otherwise is going to change that. However, when you can identify a belief as unreal. Like, “I’m lonely” when you actually have a lot of friends. Or “I’m fat” when you’re actually skinny. These are false beliefs that are harming you and you need to over come them and embrace the truth.
Paths to overcoming our truth
1. Try new things for 30 days
2. Social conditioning can be overcome by learning to trust yourself
3. Remove yourself from media
4. Travel. Traveling is fatal to prejudice
5. Simply getting older will give you more experience which will help you see the truth
6. Cultivate the observing ego
For more on this please visit my friend Rick at: www.scpua.com